Pointing out red flags in others is very easy. I mean, you can find 10 flaws in others if you want to. People can always find faults in others or can always blame others easily.
When I read a post by my favorite blogger about her red flags, I find that courageous. Because it’s hard to self-analyze and hard to admit what flaws we have. She gave 6 red flags about her and I think that’s amazing, (not the red flags but her self-assessment).
Usually, I don’t do such posts, but let’s try something fun and let me evaluate my red flags.
Red flags in me
1: I get angry fast
It’s not like I am always angry, but sometimes I overreact to certain things. I sometimes say things in a loud tone and that could be hurtful to others. My anger is like a wave, it comes and goes, but still, I overreact fast.
I sometimes come out as rude. Though I am not rude necessarily, I guess due to my voice or way of talking, people consider me rude. And, sometimes I’m intentionally rude.
2: I have an inability to make friends
Believe it or not, I am not capable of making friends. The main reason for that is I don’t have things to talk about. I cannot hold a conversation, many times I don’t know how to be interesting.
When I look back, I have very few friends. Some of my friendships are 15 years old, and some of my friendship is with 15-year-olds. I have friends from the age of 15 to 50, but my friendship with them has its limits and I don’t want to cross that limit.
If I stand in a group (which I won’t) I cannot say anything interesting that can attract people.
I read books like “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, but most of the time I don’t want to.
3: I’m not comfortable in public
This could or could not be my red flag. The reason for my discomfort was my weight. I once was 107 kg and that made me nervous to be in public. I feel all eyes are on me and everyone is judging this fat guy. Now, that I’ve lost weight, I’m still not much confident.
At the gym, I’m a different person, there I talk to people about workouts, I’m a bit comfortable, but still I may not be comfortable with those people outside the gym.
I am also shy, although being shy isn’t bad, it’s just people don’t understand this. Sometimes, I am in the mood to talk, other times I wish to ignore people.
4: I am a weirdo
I consider myself a weirdo because my taste in things is very different. I don’t like sports, I don’t understand them, I don’t participate in them. I don’t have any special quality to talk about. I am an ordinary person.
If I look back, then I don’t have an interesting story from life to share. I think, a lot, that I will say this or that, but I don’t. My mood fluctuation makes me a weirdo. Very few people have seen the real me, and I am not okay to bring out the real me with everyone. I consider myself a weirdo because I don’t like doing normal things with people.
I can get bored with people, my mood can fluctuate, and I don’t know when I can suddenly be upset or happy for no reason.
5: I am in constant search of someone
I sometimes feel I need someone special in my life. For that, I sometimes invite people in my life and I start expecting things from them. When things don’t work out, it hurts me. This is my red flag because, I feel an urge or loneliness and due to this I sometimes put people into a position where they can easily hurt me, or I can get affected by their actions.
I feel, that maybe because my heart is soft, somewhere or the other I am not like a typical man, I care about the feelings of others, I love to get involved, but in the process, I hurt myself. I trust people easily and sometimes make a wrong decision, and later I regret it.
This is my red flag because I am unable to get out of this cycle.
6: I am unable to make a quick decision
I am unable to decide a few things fast. I may need some time to process. However, this is a neutral thing, but I am unable to make crucial decisions fast.
Then, when a wrong action happens from my side, I regret it. Later I feel like hey, I should have done/said that, but till then it’s already late.
I guess that’s it for now. I cannot think of anything else, however, I am sure there are tons of things. These are my red flags. Not many people understand it, and I feel I don’t have the time and energy to explain it.
I hope the potential bride or her family doesn’t read it, but even if they do, they will see how honest I am.
I won’t be telling you to share your red flags, because I’ve seen how well people have responded to my previous post.
Until next time, Keep smiling.